I’m going through a lot of stuff this week.
Basically I’m reading old books and trying to figure stuff out about myself, asking hard questions, and so on. It’s working but it’s tough going and occasionally kind of upsetting. You come face-to-face with realizations you may not like, and when that happens, you have to try not to land in a bad place, emotionally, in order to be able to keep toughing it out.
One of the things I’m coming to grips with is what I want to be about, what I feel I already am, how others already perceive me, and how to align them all.
My question to you is: Do people really know what you’re about?
Could other people describe you in 30 seconds? Do they feel in their gut what kind of decisions you would make? Is your (ugh) “brand” clear to them?
I was asked these questions a few weeks ago by a friend who said that he knew what I was capable of, but not what I stood for.
Do you know what you stand for?
Where are your territories? What are your outposts?
Do you know for whom you would go to war?
I learned a long time ago what I was capable of, where my strengths are, and what upset me. But I couldn’t figure out what I was about.
If you’ve spent as much time drifting as I have, you probably don’t know either.
There are some questions above. Here are a few more. Answer them without corp-speak. Don’t relate them to work, unless you’re doing what you really love.
What did your childhood self want from life? Are you close to that?
Are you leaving an impact on people? Does that matter to you?
What would your best friends say mattered to you? Does that align with what you think of yourself?
There’s a lot strong questions we need to be asking ourselves to be certain we’re heading in the right direction and whether that’s congruent with our true selves (in you believe in that sort of thing).
I think the core thing is just that we never stop asking. Everything else is helped by that.