You are not born to live a long life. You are not born to succeed.
You are born to go through puberty, reproduce, and die.
Exerting effort for any other purpose than producing more children is a deviation from the natural order. It’s against your programming.
Every push to improve yourself is an act of will against the universe.
So without effort, without willpower, you are just a shell for your genes.
How you behave, how you react to this, is up to you. Making safe decisions for yourself and your children is telling yourself (and them) that what’s important is to survive and reproduce for the next generation.
If you create unique experiences for yourself and your children, if you strongly deviate from the path, you are also creating someone unique, someone who can give back to the world in a singular and powerful way.
We need both kinds of people, of course. We can’t have all iconoclasts, all rebels, or all deviants.